That Man Is You- "Forming Husbands and Fathers"
"That Man is You! honestly addresses the pressures and temptations that men face in our modern culture."
"We hear from spouses all the time who say, â€˜Whatever you are doing, keep it up!â€™"
The need it meets
That Man is You! honestly addresses the pressures and temptations that men face in our modern culture, especially those relating to their roles as husbands and fathers. The program harmonizes current social and medical science with the teachings of the Church and the wisdom of the saints to develop the vision of man fully alive!
Where it came from
That Man Is You is a program branching off of Paradisus Dei. Paradisus Dei (Latin for the Paradise of God) was founded in 2001 by Steve Bollman to help families discover the superabundance of God within marriage and family life.
How it works
Men who attend That Man is You! consider the content to be the programâ€™s greatest strength, rating it 9.4 on a 10-point scale. Organized around a central theme for each program year and presented through the lens of 7 Steps that make it simple for men to follow, this engaging content is delivered in 24 â€“ 26 sessions, divided between fall and spring semesters.
Brian Topping of Paradisus Dei says that this program:
"The results we have seen from That Man is You! have been incredible. Â TMIY transforms men - into better men, husbands and fathers, after Godâ€™s own heart. Â We hear from spouses all the time who say, â€˜Whatever you are doing, keep it up!â€™ And it has grown simply because the men who experienced it share the impact it had on their life with other men.â€
An example of where TMIY is bearing fruit is atÂ St. Mary of the Assumption in Â Lancaster, OH. At this parish, there is a strong group of over 60 active men.Â Brought a large group to see Steve at Columbus Men's Conference.
-takes men from the lowest quartile of faith involvement to the highest quartile in just one yearâ€™s time
-helps men understand their role as spiritual leader of the family
-dramatic increase in weekly Mass attendance, reception of the sacraments (notably Eucharist and Penance),daily prayer, and men choosing to spend time with their families, instead of outside interests.
-dramatic decrease in addictions/addictive behaviors (pornography, drinking, drugs), time spent away from family, â€œwith the guys,â€ business travel, and recreation activities
-creates renewed energy and vitality within the parish
Initial Year: Becoming a Man After Godâ€™s Own Heart develops the vision of man fully aliveâ€¦
Combining the latest science with the teachings of the Church and the wisdom of the saints, Becoming a Man after Godâ€™s Own Heart develops the vision of man fully alive. It makes an honest assessment of challenges facing men today and provides a practical path to transformation by focusing on manâ€™s relationship with God and introducing the 7 Steps to superabundance.
The Unveiling of Love
Empowering men to take the next step in authentic male leadership, The Unveiling of Love focuses on their role as husband and their deep desire for self-sacrificial love. Offering proven solutions and practical methods, it provides an incredibly clear pathway to overcoming the pressures men encounter in going to the end of love.
Revelation of the Father
Taking a hard look at the realities of our modern culture, Revelation of the Father seeks to transform men in their relationship with their children. It sets forth the vision of a child capable of making moral decisions in light of significant pressure and integrates the 7 Steps with Don Boscoâ€™s preventive method to help parents develop a â€œparenting plan of life.â€
Building on the foundational first three years, Paradisus Dei offers additional content years to empower men to continue living the 7 Steps, offer spiritual support to their fellow men, and practice authentic male leadership in their homes and beyond.
How to implement it
To learn more about TMIY, please visit http://paradisusdei.org/that-man-is-you/
Send them your information on the website and you will receive an email with materials that will help you introduce TMIY to others in your parish.
-TMIY Parish brochure
-TMIY overview presentation
Rev. Fr. Craig R. Eilerman is pastor of
St. Mary of the Assumption.